As of today (Google searching never disappoints) there are 1.19 BILLION monthly active users on Facebook. Facebook has become a wonderful outlet for family and friends to connect all over the globe. You can video chat, send pictures, share information and even send money (although I wonder who is doing that…). You know what else you can do on Facebook? You can judge the shit out of other people. You can judge them and shame them all from the comforts of your own home. I won’t lie and be a hypocrite, I’ve done it. Just the other day I shamed the shit out of that Minnesota dentist who killed Cecil the lion. I don’t know anything about his life, his family, his hunting practices, but I shamed him and I judged him nonetheless. But what I’ve really come to realize is that the worst offenders are mothers judging other mothers. There is a constant barrage of statuses and tweets and instagrams of mothers judging other mothers choices and decisions. And you know what? I think it’s time we put an end to it. News flash – I am not the greatest mother in the world. And neither are you. There isn’t a single person out there who is the perfect mother, even if you think are you. I have made mistakes (and Lord knows will continue to make mistakes), you have made mistakes, and that’s FINE. Mothering is just like any other aspect of our lives. We fuck up, learn a lesson and try again. Yes, there are truly awful mothers out there. Mothers who do terrible things to their children and should be punished for their crimes. But in today’s day and age when the social media brigade engages faster than the actual news story, I find that women are using this as an opportunity to say how they would never do this or never do that. What is that saying? People who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. Unless you have a crystal ball and a knack for seeing the future (and if you do, come be my friend and help me win the lottery) then how the fuck do you know what choices you’re going to make down the road? How do you know that something won’t happen to you later on in life for which you and your children are on the news? I pray nothing ever happens, but the point is YOU. DON’T. KNOW. And I think that if something did happen to you, the last thing you would want is to see 500 mothers on social media blasting you for being a horrible mother, because that doesn’t fucking help anyone. My point is, stop being so quick to judge. You literally have no idea what it is to walk in someone else’s shoes. You have no idea why they made the choices they made or what has led them to do what you deem to be horrible. Perhaps the mother who did the unspeakable act which you would never do did so because she was an all around shitty ass person, or perhaps she did it because she is sleep deprived or dealing with family issues or aliens have invaded her body and are planning to take over the world. No matter what though, you don’t know the reason, and perhaps you never will. But I think the world would be a little bit of a better place if we stopped attacking each other all the fucking time. At least I know I’m going to try.
Babies Don’t Judge!